You’re Engaged…Now what?

You’ve said yes to that all-important question, you have the ring on your finger and you’ve joyfully called all your family and friends. Now it’s time to start wedding planning!

Umm…where do you start?

Wedding planning has its fun moments (Pinterest boards, cake tasting, music selection) and its not-so-fun moments (writing checks, family drama), but all of it can be incredibly overwhelming if you don’t know where to start. Fortunately, we’re here to help you out with this guide to get you started on your wedding planning journey.

Start by Considering Your Date

Friends and family members will start asking for your wedding date almost immediately after you announce your engagement, but don’t freak out if you haven’t planned anything yet. Your wedding date will depend entirely on your venue’s availability and can’t be official until you’ve booked your chosen location.

So, first things first: select a range of dates that work for you, your partner, and your immediate family and closest friends. Determine what season you’d like to get married in and how long of an engagement you want. Most engagements are at least a year, which gives you plenty of time to plan your perfect wedding day, but you may have other commitments that could require a shorter engagement. Once you have a general date range in mind, you’ll have a better idea of how long you have to plan.

Determine your priorities & build a vision

Every couple wants different things out of their wedding. Maybe you don’t care much about the cake, but the music has to be perfect. Or maybe photography is your number one priority. Sit down and talk to your fiancé about what parts of your wedding matter most to both of you. There may even be some traditional items you can forego altogether, allowing you to save money or allocate more of your budget to the aspects of your wedding day that are most important to you as a couple.

Before you try on a gown or take a bite of cake, think about what you want your wedding day to look and feel like. Do you want an intimate ceremony with just your closest family or friends or a blowout bash with everyone you love? Will your wedding take place in a house of worship or in a beautiful outdoor location?

Set your wedding budget

Talk to your partner and your families about how much you can afford to spend on your wedding day. Determine if you’re paying for everything yourself or if your parents will be contributing, and be sure to understand exactly how much you have from each family. Once you know the amount you have to work with, you can start building out your budget and determining what you can afford for each item on your wedding planning list.

Get organized

When it comes to wedding planning, organization is your best friend. Take advantage of Google Docs and Sheets to allow you to keep everyone up-to-date on your planning process and to help keep you organized. Put together a checklist of everything you need to do so you can easily cross items off as they’re completed. You may want a physical wedding binder to keep everything in one place or just a Google Drive folder. Whatever you choose, it’s important to keep as organized as possible so that nothing falls through the cracks.

Already overwhelmed? Consider hiring a professional wedding planner or coordinator to take things over from here. They will help you find local vendors that fit within your budget and make sure everything runs smoothly on your big day, taking a huge weight off your shoulders.

Map out your guest list

Before you hire a caterer, you need to know roughly how many guests to expect at your wedding. If you want to keep things small, you may have to talk to your family and friends about the necessity of keeping your guest list tight. A smaller guest list also fits better with a smaller budget, and most of your loved ones will likely understand that.

Start your wedding registry

This is a fun part of wedding planning! You can go to physical stores like Target and Macy’s and choose items to add to your registry, or you can do it the easy way and create your registries online. If you don’t need dishes and towels, consider creating a honeymoon fund or asking for gifts of money to go toward a down payment on a home or remodeling of your current house or even your wedding album or wall art.

Book your vendors

If there are wedding vendors you absolutely must work with, like a specific photographer or local band, be sure to book them well in advance. Many vendors’ schedules fill up quickly, especially if you’re getting married in spring or summer, so the sooner you can book and lock in those vendors, the better. If you need help figuring out a vendor, reach out to us or another vendor you’ve already booked as they will have recommendations of other people they have worked with and know could fit your style and budget.

Choose your wedding party

Another fun part of wedding planning is asking your closest friends to stand with you on your special day. Decide how you’re going to pop that special question and consider giving each member of your wedding party a special gift when you ask. After all, you want these friends to know exactly how much you appreciate them being a part of your wedding.

Start wedding dress shopping

Begin by looking at dresses online, whether on Pinterest or just through a Google search. You may even want to print out some of your favorite dresses and styles to take to your bridal appointments so you can find something similar. Be sure to research the different styles and cuts of dresses so you know exactly what you’re talking about when you go to pick The One.

Most Importantly! Take breaks from planning and have fun

Wedding planning can sometimes feel all-consuming, especially if you’re doing it all on your own. This should be a time of joy and celebration, so don’t stress out over all the little details. Remember that your goal should be to celebrate your relationship with your future spouse, so don’t forget them along the way. Be sure to take time away from your seemingly endless to-do list and just enjoy being a couple. Have a date night out or just order your favorite takeout and watch a movie at home. Whatever you do, it’s important to get some relaxation time throughout your planning!


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